Friday, March 09, 2012

Random thought

As we look at at and redefine gender roles, it is obvious that some concepts are also going to need to be redefined as well. For example the pejorative terms "slut" and "bitch". When a woman was bound by society (Both socially and sometimes legally) to completely abstain from sexual intercourse until marriage, not abstaining made her a "slut". The more times she didn't abstain, the bigger of a slut she was. In part this was due to women being seen as property as much, if not more than people that were enslaved. By engaging in "slutty" activities they were devaluing the property (themselves). This obviously wasn't true in all societies, just as it is not untrue in all societies now.
But at this point, as people are being forbidden from marrying their lovers approximately 10% of the time, and as most societies no longer allow people to be considered property... The situation no longer applies. If anything, today the word slut can best be described as defining "any woman who partakes in sexual activity for their own pleasure instead of obligation." Activities can vary from intercourse to wearing outfits with the intention of attracting a potential lovers attraction. Or even the attention of people who may want to become lovers, but provoke no interest from the woman in question.
Bitch on the other hand has often been used to demean women who had an opinion that differed from the one they were handed. Or to emasculate men by saying they were behaving in a cowardly or feminine way. Both of these meanings can be related back to the actions of the original bitch. The matronly dog. When exposed to hostility or disapproval a dog will often whine and display their subservience to the one doing the disapproving. Thus the emasculating use of the term. However obedient and subservient a dog may be however... they will still rip out your throat if they have to. Thus the former definition of a "bitch". As the word contradicts itself, depending on the situation, the term is essentially meaningless when lacking context. Although perhaps not... perhaps a bitch is somebody that offers themselves as being subservient when necessary in order to placate the people they care about. Much like a parent will forego sleep in order to comfort a child. But who will defend the ones they care about to the death if the need arises. Robbed of its pejorative context a bitch is actually a very beautiful person, who exhibits the very finest qualities humanity has to offer.
So for examples: Catherine the Great was a slut, since she enjoyed her sexuality. Susan B. Anthony was a bitch because she fought for those she cared about.
I feel I am fortunate to have made quite a few friends of both genders who can proudly wear the title of "Slutty Bitch". Although they may not have their faces on currency, my life is enriched by knowing them.